Honking Drivers
I'm not talking about drivers who honk while they are driving. I'm talking about the ones who are picking someone up and sit out in the street or in the driveway and honk for the person to come outside.
Now, I don't know about you, but if someone wants to pick me up they need to come to the door and get me. I can't see who's hinking the horn. The person may just be driving my friends car.
When my daughter starts dating(years from now) she will not leave the house if her date doesn't come to the door and meet her parents first. If her date, or friend, has so little respect for her as to honk at her like she's in the way then she will not be leaving with them.
That's right, I thinks it's disrespectful. A person is not a dog you can train to come when you call, or honk. Have enough respect for your passenger, and the neighbors, to get out of the car and knock on the door. If you can't face someones parents to pick their kid up, or even say hello to the spouse or kids, when you pick them up, you probably shouldn't even be there. Even if you are in a hurry. IT only takes a minute. One minute o look the rest of the household in the eye and tell them who you are.
Tuesday, November 02, 2010
Friday, October 29, 2010
Church Attire
Alright, I sometimes go to one of the churches closer to home because i'm afraid to drive my car all the way to the good church. Let's face it. A lot of the other drivers out there are scary. especially where I live.
Something that bothers me about these other churches, besides the mass and irreverence of their religion, is the way some of the people dress. Mostly it's the younger kids and folks in their 20's. But the age isn't really the problem, its the way they don't dress as is they are going before God.
Now, I did it, too, when i was a kid. I didn't understand why my grandmother got so upset with me over it. But I understand now. AndSo I am saying this:
Dress as if you are meeting God.
Why? Because you are. If you don't have little ones to chase into church clothes in the morning, wear a nice skirt(or dress pants) and blouse or a dress. No spaghetti straps(or wear a sweater over the little straps). Mini skirts do not count.
Gentlemen wear a pair of slacks and a polo shirt or a button up dress shirt and tie. Tie not necessary if you don't have one.
If you don't have any of this wear the cleanest, nicest clothes you own.
It also falls into my post on modesty a bit. Ladies: A strapless, mini dress in a garish color is not appropriate for church. even if you wear a sweater. Modesty is something you want to observe, especially in church. You're not going on a date at church. You're there to pray.
That is all. Just something that really bothered me about the local churches.
Alright, I sometimes go to one of the churches closer to home because i'm afraid to drive my car all the way to the good church. Let's face it. A lot of the other drivers out there are scary. especially where I live.
Something that bothers me about these other churches, besides the mass and irreverence of their religion, is the way some of the people dress. Mostly it's the younger kids and folks in their 20's. But the age isn't really the problem, its the way they don't dress as is they are going before God.
Now, I did it, too, when i was a kid. I didn't understand why my grandmother got so upset with me over it. But I understand now. AndSo I am saying this:
Dress as if you are meeting God.
Why? Because you are. If you don't have little ones to chase into church clothes in the morning, wear a nice skirt(or dress pants) and blouse or a dress. No spaghetti straps(or wear a sweater over the little straps). Mini skirts do not count.
Gentlemen wear a pair of slacks and a polo shirt or a button up dress shirt and tie. Tie not necessary if you don't have one.
If you don't have any of this wear the cleanest, nicest clothes you own.
It also falls into my post on modesty a bit. Ladies: A strapless, mini dress in a garish color is not appropriate for church. even if you wear a sweater. Modesty is something you want to observe, especially in church. You're not going on a date at church. You're there to pray.
That is all. Just something that really bothered me about the local churches.
Friday, October 01, 2010
INFIDELITY
I am using the word "partner" in his peice because here are too many unmaried couples that experience this nd i'm not letting anyone off the hook.
I feel about infidelity the same as I feel about murder and suicide. It is a purely selfish act that hurts those around you. I will, however, acknowlegde that suicide often has complex contributing factors. t is still selfish.
Back on track. Infidelity isn't about how much you love or don't love someone. It's not about your partner(not everyone is a married couple) doing or not doing something you want. It is not even about yourself being unhappy in what you have. It's about being rebellious, looking for instant gratification and takeing the shortest, easiest route for that gratification.
I've heard people say some pretty amazing hings o explain away infidelity.
"If they can't get it from you, the're going to get it from someone else."
"I love you, but i'm just not in love with you."
" I have no sex drive."
"They manipulated ithemselves into dating me."
"they're crazy."
"I don't want to hurt you."
"We've grown apart."
"I married them out of guilt."(when "I" proposes it's not guilt.)
"It's me, It's not you."
"They haven'ttouched me in 8 months."
How many of those have I heard? All of them. Yes. All of hem. How many of them sound reasonable to you? Not many. In fact none. Everytime I've heard this one,"I have no sex drive." , an act of infidelity has followed. The fourth one is a new one. Just this week, in fact. But i'm not buying it.
How can infidelity be avoided? Well DUH!!! Talk to your partner. No really. Talk to your partner. People change as they get older. You keep from "growing apart" by continuing to learn about each other. Keep talking to each oher, asking each other questions about the other person. You don't have o agree with everything they say. You don't have to like everything they like. The only way that would happen is if you marry yourself. Let's face it, we're not all dennis rodman. May have misspelled that.
As far as atraction goes. If you weren't attratcted to them in the first place you would never have dated them to begin with. Especially if you keep dating people who have the same features.
Okay. So the sex part. Eveyone has hang-ups in that department. If one of you doesn'twant to do something,or isn't comfortable with a certain thing, do something else or very carefully talk about why and go from there.
If, after doing everything possible, counseling, talking to each other and actively working on the relationship you still arent happy with it. get some help for yourself to figureout why.
Infidelity isn't something that just happens. It's done with full knowledge of the consequences of hose actions.
Oh yes, flirting is infidelity. Flirting opens the door in the reasoning box that leads to infidelity. If you can excuse away flirting you can excuse away physical infidelty.
If you want to flirt with someone, flirt with your partner. You'l both be happy with the resuls.
Don'tbe afraid to tell what's really on your mind. You'll be surprised how just holding hat back can damage the level of trust in the relationship. Don'tbe shy, just tell them.
I should point out that I have never been un faithful, and neither has he. But darn if I haven't seen so much of it right in my own home.
I am using the word "partner" in his peice because here are too many unmaried couples that experience this nd i'm not letting anyone off the hook.
I feel about infidelity the same as I feel about murder and suicide. It is a purely selfish act that hurts those around you. I will, however, acknowlegde that suicide often has complex contributing factors. t is still selfish.
Back on track. Infidelity isn't about how much you love or don't love someone. It's not about your partner(not everyone is a married couple) doing or not doing something you want. It is not even about yourself being unhappy in what you have. It's about being rebellious, looking for instant gratification and takeing the shortest, easiest route for that gratification.
I've heard people say some pretty amazing hings o explain away infidelity.
"If they can't get it from you, the're going to get it from someone else."
"I love you, but i'm just not in love with you."
" I have no sex drive."
"They manipulated ithemselves into dating me."
"they're crazy."
"I don't want to hurt you."
"We've grown apart."
"I married them out of guilt."(when "I" proposes it's not guilt.)
"It's me, It's not you."
"They haven'ttouched me in 8 months."
How many of those have I heard? All of them. Yes. All of hem. How many of them sound reasonable to you? Not many. In fact none. Everytime I've heard this one,"I have no sex drive." , an act of infidelity has followed. The fourth one is a new one. Just this week, in fact. But i'm not buying it.
How can infidelity be avoided? Well DUH!!! Talk to your partner. No really. Talk to your partner. People change as they get older. You keep from "growing apart" by continuing to learn about each other. Keep talking to each oher, asking each other questions about the other person. You don't have o agree with everything they say. You don't have to like everything they like. The only way that would happen is if you marry yourself. Let's face it, we're not all dennis rodman. May have misspelled that.
As far as atraction goes. If you weren't attratcted to them in the first place you would never have dated them to begin with. Especially if you keep dating people who have the same features.
Okay. So the sex part. Eveyone has hang-ups in that department. If one of you doesn'twant to do something,or isn't comfortable with a certain thing, do something else or very carefully talk about why and go from there.
If, after doing everything possible, counseling, talking to each other and actively working on the relationship you still arent happy with it. get some help for yourself to figureout why.
Infidelity isn't something that just happens. It's done with full knowledge of the consequences of hose actions.
Oh yes, flirting is infidelity. Flirting opens the door in the reasoning box that leads to infidelity. If you can excuse away flirting you can excuse away physical infidelty.
If you want to flirt with someone, flirt with your partner. You'l both be happy with the resuls.
Don'tbe afraid to tell what's really on your mind. You'll be surprised how just holding hat back can damage the level of trust in the relationship. Don'tbe shy, just tell them.
I should point out that I have never been un faithful, and neither has he. But darn if I haven't seen so much of it right in my own home.
Monday, September 27, 2010
HMMM.....
A friend recently pointed out to me that women are undervaues and underpaid. I told her about my last post.
She told me it's still a mans wrld because men still run it, and if Hilary Clinton had come out and said ll the suf her husbnd did were her idea she would have been tossed out.
But that made me wonder: Is it true? Did no want her to be the first womn president because of her policies? If that's the case then she was just as unlikely to be electd as a man. I, for one, am sure I would not have liked her any more if she were a man. I actually don't like her at all.
Are women really undervalued, or are they just told they are? I for one feel undervalued because I stay at home for my child, s well as for my nieces to have safe child care. Does that mean i'm worth less? She hasn' t said as much, but I am sure one sister looks down on me for it. Either because she's jealous or because she really thinks less of me for it.
Is the work I do around a home less importnt than what Iwould do at a job outside the home?
What is the real driving fore behind this femanist movement to keep women out of the home? Why shouldn't we be in the home? We have a right to stay in the home and do what we re programed to do. Why is it looked at as wrong?
If my previous post seems angry I apologize. The news coverage really did tick me off.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
Our Men
One of the headlines on the news the other night was about how much women get paid for their labor. 83cents on the dollar.
They also pointed out that there are more women on campus than men, and more men than women in the unemployment line.
Great! One big step for woman-kind!*eyes roll*
How much are the men getting paid for their labor? That was a conveniently left out question. Could it be possible we ctually make the same amount? What about our men?!
The fact that this was left out is very sad. "Feminism" is emasculating our men. There are whole generations now ruined by it. There are young men and boys of all ages who are angry and don't really understand why.
Our men are being left behind. Young boys are becomeing increasingly angry because they are being told they aren't as valuable as girls. It's in movies, books, music, business politics and in school. They are being told that, because they have a "Y" chromosome, their input doesn't matter.
Case in point: a line from "private practice"(may not be exactly word for word) "If you don't have a vagina I want you to leave this room. " Feel free to try and prove that line isn't there. I turned that show off permanently after that line.
Because of "womens empowerment" our men, our men are being left out of marital decisions, reproductive decisions, financial decisions, religious decisions, activity in any christian church in a number of contries and being told we don't need them alltgether.
We do need them. We need their strength. We need their practicality. We need them to support a healthy home life. We need them to make us feel safe. We need them as role models for our sons. We need them so our daughters have healthy relationships with the opposite sex.
WE NEED OUR MEN! You want real feminism in the world? Put your dresses or skirts back on.Throw out the sexy jeans. Get in the kitchen and let the men back into the workplace. Stand up to the space-bats and tell them you want to be applauded for being domestic. Demand recodnition and apprectiation for the men who work so hard for their families to have a mother and wife at home. Demand that our men folk be given their dignity as men back to them.
We, as women, have stood up for ourselves kong enough. Stand up for our men. Scream for mens empowerment.
Demand equl funding for prostate cancer, as much as breast cancer. Demand it for mens heart disease, and testicular cancer. Mens cancers get a drop in the bucket in funding compared to how much womens cancers get.
It is time to fight for our men.
They deserve it after 100 years of oppresion by self-centered females.
I love the men in my family. I am proud to have wonderful, strong men in my family. I will fight for them any day of the week.
One of the headlines on the news the other night was about how much women get paid for their labor. 83cents on the dollar.
They also pointed out that there are more women on campus than men, and more men than women in the unemployment line.
Great! One big step for woman-kind!*eyes roll*
How much are the men getting paid for their labor? That was a conveniently left out question. Could it be possible we ctually make the same amount? What about our men?!
The fact that this was left out is very sad. "Feminism" is emasculating our men. There are whole generations now ruined by it. There are young men and boys of all ages who are angry and don't really understand why.
Our men are being left behind. Young boys are becomeing increasingly angry because they are being told they aren't as valuable as girls. It's in movies, books, music, business politics and in school. They are being told that, because they have a "Y" chromosome, their input doesn't matter.
Case in point: a line from "private practice"(may not be exactly word for word) "If you don't have a vagina I want you to leave this room. " Feel free to try and prove that line isn't there. I turned that show off permanently after that line.
Because of "womens empowerment" our men, our men are being left out of marital decisions, reproductive decisions, financial decisions, religious decisions, activity in any christian church in a number of contries and being told we don't need them alltgether.
We do need them. We need their strength. We need their practicality. We need them to support a healthy home life. We need them to make us feel safe. We need them as role models for our sons. We need them so our daughters have healthy relationships with the opposite sex.
WE NEED OUR MEN! You want real feminism in the world? Put your dresses or skirts back on.Throw out the sexy jeans. Get in the kitchen and let the men back into the workplace. Stand up to the space-bats and tell them you want to be applauded for being domestic. Demand recodnition and apprectiation for the men who work so hard for their families to have a mother and wife at home. Demand that our men folk be given their dignity as men back to them.
We, as women, have stood up for ourselves kong enough. Stand up for our men. Scream for mens empowerment.
Demand equl funding for prostate cancer, as much as breast cancer. Demand it for mens heart disease, and testicular cancer. Mens cancers get a drop in the bucket in funding compared to how much womens cancers get.
It is time to fight for our men.
They deserve it after 100 years of oppresion by self-centered females.
I love the men in my family. I am proud to have wonderful, strong men in my family. I will fight for them any day of the week.
Thursday, September 09, 2010
Modesty and Chastity
This is something i've only come to understand with age. This is part of "the talk" I will one day have with my own daughter.
It is okay to be modest. Yes, some of the other kids will tease you for your choice in clothes, they only wish they had them. Some of the other girls will tease you about something they like that you wear. I know this because it happened to me.
Be modest anyway. Don't let anyone tell you it's not right. Even if that person is your best friend, boyfriend or teacher.
Be chaste. Chastity is a virtue ( so are patience and modesty). virtues do not have to be about religion, for those of you who rebel at religion.
Keep your mind chaste. Yes, it is possible. Even for a teenager or college student. I know they say teenaged boys think about sex so many times a day, that girls do, too, but less than boys. Why do we tell them it's okay when it's really not? Why do we not tell them it's expected of them to think about sex, when we really don't want them to think about it?
Teach your children to be chaste. Don't say " you'll probably think about sex a lot, but I don't want you to." Even if the parent was not chaste as a young person, you can still look at your kids(boys and girls) and say " I know it's better to be chaste. I know it will be hard, but it's better."
my best friend told me ( i was 19 she was in her 40's) that it wasn't realistic to expect kids to not have sex. I wondered why. Sure the ones I was around were taught that its okay to do that. But why? If you don't want to find out your kids are having sex, tell them you don't want them to have sex.
Teach your boys to save themselves for their wives. That it won;t mean anything unless they are married. when you are not married it really is just empty. Sure it feels good, but it still felt empty. Teach your girls modesty and it will be easier for them to be chaste, and for the boys to be chaste as well.
Teach your girls to save themselves for their husbands. Again, it is just an empty act if you are not married. I know from experience.
I was engaged to my husband for a long time before i married him. We had a child out of wedlock. It still felt empty. Yes we loved each other. Yes we were very committed to each other. But there were times that I felt used. There were also times that I felt like I had used him. Even with our arms around each other falling asleep, even when he took care of me when I was sick, I still felt like I was using him in some way because we were not married.
Teach your boys and girls modesty from an early age. At about 10 start on chastity. To promote both of these from early childhood have it a regular thing, in the home, that they see the parents being modest. Be chaste outside of your bedroom(I know married people enjoy sex). Continue teaching both through high school and college. Yes college. Once they are away from home the influences of the world are still there. You are still their parent, so parent. They still need it.They will love and respect you more for it.
Thankyou to my mom for teaching me most of this, even when I didn't want to listen.
This is something i've only come to understand with age. This is part of "the talk" I will one day have with my own daughter.
It is okay to be modest. Yes, some of the other kids will tease you for your choice in clothes, they only wish they had them. Some of the other girls will tease you about something they like that you wear. I know this because it happened to me.
Be modest anyway. Don't let anyone tell you it's not right. Even if that person is your best friend, boyfriend or teacher.
Be chaste. Chastity is a virtue ( so are patience and modesty). virtues do not have to be about religion, for those of you who rebel at religion.
Keep your mind chaste. Yes, it is possible. Even for a teenager or college student. I know they say teenaged boys think about sex so many times a day, that girls do, too, but less than boys. Why do we tell them it's okay when it's really not? Why do we not tell them it's expected of them to think about sex, when we really don't want them to think about it?
Teach your children to be chaste. Don't say " you'll probably think about sex a lot, but I don't want you to." Even if the parent was not chaste as a young person, you can still look at your kids(boys and girls) and say " I know it's better to be chaste. I know it will be hard, but it's better."
my best friend told me ( i was 19 she was in her 40's) that it wasn't realistic to expect kids to not have sex. I wondered why. Sure the ones I was around were taught that its okay to do that. But why? If you don't want to find out your kids are having sex, tell them you don't want them to have sex.
Teach your boys to save themselves for their wives. That it won;t mean anything unless they are married. when you are not married it really is just empty. Sure it feels good, but it still felt empty. Teach your girls modesty and it will be easier for them to be chaste, and for the boys to be chaste as well.
Teach your girls to save themselves for their husbands. Again, it is just an empty act if you are not married. I know from experience.
I was engaged to my husband for a long time before i married him. We had a child out of wedlock. It still felt empty. Yes we loved each other. Yes we were very committed to each other. But there were times that I felt used. There were also times that I felt like I had used him. Even with our arms around each other falling asleep, even when he took care of me when I was sick, I still felt like I was using him in some way because we were not married.
Teach your boys and girls modesty from an early age. At about 10 start on chastity. To promote both of these from early childhood have it a regular thing, in the home, that they see the parents being modest. Be chaste outside of your bedroom(I know married people enjoy sex). Continue teaching both through high school and college. Yes college. Once they are away from home the influences of the world are still there. You are still their parent, so parent. They still need it.They will love and respect you more for it.
Thankyou to my mom for teaching me most of this, even when I didn't want to listen.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
VACCINES
Yes, I am addressing this issue. IT is very important. Topic is from an episode of Frontline on pbs.org. It adresses vaccines and autism and other things blamed on vaccines.
Watching PBS monday night(month or two ago), a show on vaccines. Listening to the people interviewed and seeing who they interviewed, they didn't interview anyone who was blue-collar(working class) about what they hought about vaccines. All I saw was upper-middle class white women ( I am white) who live in the coastal states complaing about being told they had to get their children vaccinated and trying to blame the fact that their children aren't perfect on anyone but themselves.
The scientists in the program even showed research that proved that there is no link between vaccines and autism, the oh-so-publisized debate. This proven research wasn't good enough good enough for them so they found something else to blame it on. They chose the age at which the vaccine is given.
Autism presents itself at 15-18 months of age. The age that a child reseives the vaccine ( no parent specified which vaccine the child was given), and so there is no real way to know if it is the vaccine or just the disease. Yes I know there is a lot more cases of autism than there ever were before.
Personally, I am very thankful for vaccines. Without vaccines. Without them our children would be crippled or killed by polio. We still have cases(even with vaccines, from unvaccinated people) of whooping cough. Whooping cough kills babies and children. IT is so rare now(because of vaccines) that most doctors don't know how to recognize it. Vaccines also protect our children against measles, mumps, rubella, hepatitus, influenza, diptheria(youknow, the one that almost whiped Achorage off the map), and chicken pox.
One woman interviewed said we don't have certain diseases anymore because of vaccines. Wrong! The only disease that has been irradicated by vaccines is smallpox. The only sample of that left is locked away in case it ever comes back so that we can innoculate against it again.
All other diseases are PREVENTED not IRRADICATED. They still exist, they still have outbreaks of them because people are not getting vaccinated or are not vaccinating their children.
To stress this more, one of the scientists interviewed contracted polio. there was not a vaccine for polio until the 1950's. I have a few aunts and uncles who were children when polio was a problem. they are lucky the didn't contract it. I have a deceased cousin who contracted hepatitus while she was still in the hospital as a baby. Although a vaccine for it would not have had time to help her, I know that my own daughter recieved a vaccine for it the day she was born. I am very happy that she will not have be very sick for a very short life because of this vaccine. I am also glad that my child or neices or any future children in my family will not ahve to suffer through chickenpox. At least not if they do not contract it before they ar eold enough to recieve the vaccine. I have a scar from my own episode of chikenpox when I was 4. My 2 yr old sister caught it as well as I and my twin.
I am a strong believer in vaccines. i will get my children vaccinated. I will not only be protecting my children, but other children as well. If my children can't get it, they can't give it ti someone else.
Th
Yes, I am addressing this issue. IT is very important. Topic is from an episode of Frontline on pbs.org. It adresses vaccines and autism and other things blamed on vaccines.
Watching PBS monday night(month or two ago), a show on vaccines. Listening to the people interviewed and seeing who they interviewed, they didn't interview anyone who was blue-collar(working class) about what they hought about vaccines. All I saw was upper-middle class white women ( I am white) who live in the coastal states complaing about being told they had to get their children vaccinated and trying to blame the fact that their children aren't perfect on anyone but themselves.
The scientists in the program even showed research that proved that there is no link between vaccines and autism, the oh-so-publisized debate. This proven research wasn't good enough good enough for them so they found something else to blame it on. They chose the age at which the vaccine is given.
Autism presents itself at 15-18 months of age. The age that a child reseives the vaccine ( no parent specified which vaccine the child was given), and so there is no real way to know if it is the vaccine or just the disease. Yes I know there is a lot more cases of autism than there ever were before.
Personally, I am very thankful for vaccines. Without vaccines. Without them our children would be crippled or killed by polio. We still have cases(even with vaccines, from unvaccinated people) of whooping cough. Whooping cough kills babies and children. IT is so rare now(because of vaccines) that most doctors don't know how to recognize it. Vaccines also protect our children against measles, mumps, rubella, hepatitus, influenza, diptheria(youknow, the one that almost whiped Achorage off the map), and chicken pox.
One woman interviewed said we don't have certain diseases anymore because of vaccines. Wrong! The only disease that has been irradicated by vaccines is smallpox. The only sample of that left is locked away in case it ever comes back so that we can innoculate against it again.
All other diseases are PREVENTED not IRRADICATED. They still exist, they still have outbreaks of them because people are not getting vaccinated or are not vaccinating their children.
To stress this more, one of the scientists interviewed contracted polio. there was not a vaccine for polio until the 1950's. I have a few aunts and uncles who were children when polio was a problem. they are lucky the didn't contract it. I have a deceased cousin who contracted hepatitus while she was still in the hospital as a baby. Although a vaccine for it would not have had time to help her, I know that my own daughter recieved a vaccine for it the day she was born. I am very happy that she will not have be very sick for a very short life because of this vaccine. I am also glad that my child or neices or any future children in my family will not ahve to suffer through chickenpox. At least not if they do not contract it before they ar eold enough to recieve the vaccine. I have a scar from my own episode of chikenpox when I was 4. My 2 yr old sister caught it as well as I and my twin.
I am a strong believer in vaccines. i will get my children vaccinated. I will not only be protecting my children, but other children as well. If my children can't get it, they can't give it ti someone else.
Th
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