Modesty and Chastity

This is something i've only come to understand with age. This is part of "the talk" I will one day have with my own daughter.

It is okay to be modest. Yes, some of the other kids will tease you for your choice in clothes, they only wish they had them. Some of the other girls will tease you about something they like that you wear. I know this because it happened to me.
Be modest anyway. Don't let anyone tell you it's not right. Even if that person is your best friend, boyfriend or teacher.

Be chaste. Chastity is a virtue ( so are patience and modesty). virtues do not have to be about religion, for those of you who rebel at religion.
Keep your mind chaste. Yes, it is possible. Even for a teenager or college student. I know they say teenaged boys think about sex so many times a day, that girls do, too, but less than boys. Why do we tell them it's okay when it's really not? Why do we not tell them it's expected of them to think about sex, when we really don't want them to think about it?
Teach your children to be chaste. Don't say " you'll probably think about sex a lot, but I don't want you to." Even if the parent was not chaste as a young person, you can still look at your kids(boys and girls) and say " I know it's better to be chaste. I know it will be hard, but it's better."
my best friend told me ( i was 19 she was in her 40's) that it wasn't realistic to expect kids to not have sex. I wondered why. Sure the ones I was around were taught that its okay to do that. But why? If you don't want to find out your kids are having sex, tell them you don't want them to have sex.
Teach your boys to save themselves for their wives. That it won;t mean anything unless they are married. when you are not married it really is just empty. Sure it feels good, but it still felt empty. Teach your girls modesty and it will be easier for them to be chaste, and for the boys to be chaste as well.
Teach your girls to save themselves for their husbands. Again, it is just an empty act if you are not married. I know from experience.
I was engaged to my husband for a long time before i married him. We had a child out of wedlock. It still felt empty. Yes we loved each other. Yes we were very committed to each other. But there were times that I felt used. There were also times that I felt like I had used him. Even with our arms around each other falling asleep, even when he took care of me when I was sick, I still felt like I was using him in some way because we were not married.

Teach your boys and girls modesty from an early age. At about 10 start on chastity. To promote both of these from early childhood have it a regular thing, in the home, that they see the parents being modest. Be chaste outside of your bedroom(I know married people enjoy sex). Continue teaching both through high school and college. Yes college. Once they are away from home the influences of the world are still there. You are still their parent, so parent. They still need it.They will love and respect you more for it.

Thankyou to my mom for teaching me most of this, even when I didn't want to listen.