Alone with my thoughts... again.
Well, my brain has done it again. I was left alone with my thoughts while preparing dinner and they once again turn to the drama that goes on in the family. I don't like drama, but I do think about the things that cause the drama ( usually my problems is my younger sister or my dad..sorry dad). I try to come up with solutions for the drama that doesn't involve me kicking someones behind, especially now that i'm expecting. That's just not healthy.
The only conclusion that I can come to is to get to the root of the problem. Since that won't happen with dad (he's old and set in his ways) that leaves younger sister. So how to get to the root of that problem. Really. How?
What I've determined with the current problem is, regardless of dads feelings on it, that she is of an age where she is wholly responsible for her own actions. So he's off the hook for any latent parental guilt.
The other is that, after some conversations with her, things I've overheard (not on purpose), and things that have been told to me, it is clear she is not happy with herself. It is also clear she does not value men. From what I can tell she may not even know why (dad don't comment, she did have good examples).
Now, it's no secret that I don't like or trust her current boyfriend. However, knowing how she treats men and how their relationship started, I don't think he deserves for her to treat him like a tool. regardless of the fact we think he's the type to hit her and her children or worse, it looks like she started out looking for a man to give her somewhere to go. So in the long run of thought processes in my head I have come to this conclusion for all the women like her and the ones too young to have been told this:
If she truly loves him like she says she does then there is no logical reason to treat him like a tool.
That's right. Even if a man is in fact the kind to be a tool, the woman who says "I love you" should not treat him like one. A woman should treat her man with respect, even if she refuses to look at why he would deserve it, she should still do it. It is important.
I also truly feel that if a woman cannot bring herself to respect any man then she should not have one. Not in any capacity. Ever.
I say this because I see too much of it. Men are not there to be a baby daddy that you get money from. They aren't there to hold on a pedestal and treat you like a princess. They are there to provide for the family and protect the women and children.
Men's sole purpose for millennia is for them to provide food (or income once money was invented) , shelter with said monies, and fight off the brigands and evil doers. That is how they are hard wired. Plain and simple. That's why they can't trust you with that guy you slept with once. That's why they don't trust other men around their woman. That's also why they are so protective and watchful of who is around their offspring. That's their child and they won't let anyone hurt them.
So if you are a woman who can't respect the hard work and dedication and constant stress a man is under just for you, don't bother even sleeping with one. Be celibate. Because it's women like you who make the rest of us look bad and make men suffer for having a Y chromosome instead XX.
I sincerely hope this wasn't too out there for you dear reader.
Well, my brain has done it again. I was left alone with my thoughts while preparing dinner and they once again turn to the drama that goes on in the family. I don't like drama, but I do think about the things that cause the drama ( usually my problems is my younger sister or my dad..sorry dad). I try to come up with solutions for the drama that doesn't involve me kicking someones behind, especially now that i'm expecting. That's just not healthy.
The only conclusion that I can come to is to get to the root of the problem. Since that won't happen with dad (he's old and set in his ways) that leaves younger sister. So how to get to the root of that problem. Really. How?
What I've determined with the current problem is, regardless of dads feelings on it, that she is of an age where she is wholly responsible for her own actions. So he's off the hook for any latent parental guilt.
The other is that, after some conversations with her, things I've overheard (not on purpose), and things that have been told to me, it is clear she is not happy with herself. It is also clear she does not value men. From what I can tell she may not even know why (dad don't comment, she did have good examples).
Now, it's no secret that I don't like or trust her current boyfriend. However, knowing how she treats men and how their relationship started, I don't think he deserves for her to treat him like a tool. regardless of the fact we think he's the type to hit her and her children or worse, it looks like she started out looking for a man to give her somewhere to go. So in the long run of thought processes in my head I have come to this conclusion for all the women like her and the ones too young to have been told this:
If she truly loves him like she says she does then there is no logical reason to treat him like a tool.
That's right. Even if a man is in fact the kind to be a tool, the woman who says "I love you" should not treat him like one. A woman should treat her man with respect, even if she refuses to look at why he would deserve it, she should still do it. It is important.
I also truly feel that if a woman cannot bring herself to respect any man then she should not have one. Not in any capacity. Ever.
I say this because I see too much of it. Men are not there to be a baby daddy that you get money from. They aren't there to hold on a pedestal and treat you like a princess. They are there to provide for the family and protect the women and children.
Men's sole purpose for millennia is for them to provide food (or income once money was invented) , shelter with said monies, and fight off the brigands and evil doers. That is how they are hard wired. Plain and simple. That's why they can't trust you with that guy you slept with once. That's why they don't trust other men around their woman. That's also why they are so protective and watchful of who is around their offspring. That's their child and they won't let anyone hurt them.
So if you are a woman who can't respect the hard work and dedication and constant stress a man is under just for you, don't bother even sleeping with one. Be celibate. Because it's women like you who make the rest of us look bad and make men suffer for having a Y chromosome instead XX.
I sincerely hope this wasn't too out there for you dear reader.
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